Except our boy.
Because we can't see a moral or ethical path to encouraging Bud to profess this:
- Boy Scouts of America believes that homosexual conduct is inconsistent with the obligations in the Scout Oath and Scout Law to be morally straight and clean in thought, word, and deed.
Do we really want him around people who believe that his moms are dirty and immoral? Or to have to agree to that himself? Of course, not all Boy Scouts believe this, surely. I imagine they conveniently ignore it because it doesn't affect them. That doesn't make it better. Or right. And what kind of message does that send to Bud or the BSA, that we don't mind that they morally object to us? Would you encourage a biracial child to join the Klan?
It's hard because we know that he'd probably enjoy the camaraderie and activities. Several of our friends don't understand our dilemma and keep telling us that it doesn't matter on the local level, that no one will discriminate against us or Bud here in town. And I imagine they're right, for the most part. But I say it's the principle of the matter.
Besides, in 2009, the moms of a Vermont Scout were prohibited from volunteering for his pack when it was learned they were lesbians.
How could I risk putting him through that? What would we have taught him? What would he have learned?