Saturday, May 21, 2011

A Different Kind of Family Value

First grade. The time when boys join Cub Scouts.

Except our boy.

Because we can't see a moral or ethical path to encouraging Bud to profess this:

Boy Scouts of America believes that homosexual conduct is inconsistent with the obligations in the Scout Oath and Scout Law to be morally straight and clean in thought, word, and deed.

Do we really want him around people who believe that his moms are dirty and immoral? Or to have to agree to that himself? Of course, not all Boy Scouts believe this, surely. I imagine they conveniently ignore it because it doesn't affect them. That doesn't make it better. Or right. And what kind of message does that send to Bud or the BSA, that we don't mind that they morally object to us? Would you encourage a biracial child to join the Klan?

It's hard because we know that he'd probably enjoy the camaraderie and activities. Several of our friends don't understand our dilemma and keep telling us that it doesn't matter on the local level, that no one will discriminate against us or Bud here in town. And I imagine they're right, for the most part. But I say it's the principle of the matter.

Besides, in 2009, the moms of a Vermont Scout were prohibited from volunteering for his pack when it was learned they were lesbians.

How could I risk putting him through that? What would we have taught him? What would he have learned?


  1. The Boy Scouts of America are missing out on some very fine candidates by clinging to their outdated and misguided policy.

    Things change in this world only when we take a stand. And it's rarely easy. Congratulations to your family for living into your values. (And THAT is what you are teaching Bud).

  2. When Baden Powell founded the Boy Scout movement in 1910+/- he never thought that it would become world wide, indeed when I was a scout we promised to do our duty to God and the King and it was a Christian based organisation, male homosexual acts were illegal and women did not have a vote. The scouts have modified their outlook over the decades, but not, apparently, in parts of USA. He was an unusual character, married a much younger woman, they had one child and he did not sleep in the matrimonial bed but on a camp bed on a veranda, which could not have been much fun for his young wife but on the other hand he had honours heaped on him and she enjoyed reflected glory.