Tuesday, June 20, 2017

"These are a Few of My Favorite Things" from our Weekend in VT

So much to say, don't want this to be too long.  So, free association:

Heat wave:  It was unseasonably hot the whole time, without much AC anywhere.  In mid- to high-80sF.  I. HATE. Being. HOT.

Vermont Country Store:  Sis loves the today's cut cheese; Bud always goes for the chocolates; I like the summer sausage and crackers; Mama always finds the oddest stuff, like the little glasses cleaning doo-dad that works really well.  Got some purpley Zentangle-like earrings and a new robe.  Love wandering around the store.  Saw the Rogers statue group display, including the one we got for Christmas.

Stowe:  We met Gommie and Pop at a lovely restaurant in Stowe named Harrison's, where thankfully we had reservations.  We caught up on their travels almost to Canada and relayed our last days of school.  Mussels, smoked chicken, root vegetable pot pie, fish and chips, poached pears/walnuts/goat cheese spinach salad, calamari--mercy, we always eat well when we're together!  Afterwards, Gommie and I wandered the local cemetery a bit--mainly because the rest of the whole town--general store, yarn shop, tourist info--was closed already.  Some colonial headstones but mostly 19th century. And lots of mosquitoes whose bites I didn't notice until later (bugs bit me all weekend--I bet I have about 30 bites.)

Sis and the Icelandi Ponies, taken by Mama on her first horseback ride




Trapp Family Lodge:  "The hills are alive . . . "  Yep, those Trapps.  And it's a slice of Austria in VT, a lot like the movie--perfect and clean and wholesome.  Chocolates at turn-down.  Pilsner glasses, schnitzel, wurst, pretzels with mustard (dinner in the Lounge.)  Sacher torte, black forest cake, strudel, almond bear claw (that was breakfast at the Austrian Tea Room.)  Beautiful hotel room with views of the surrounding mountains, in gradations of blue and green.  We heard sheep all night, singing lullabies to Mama. Just like being in the Alps.  Gorgeous flowers--lilac, sage, a wild rose of some kind, so many that I can't name--and so many butterflies (especially black and yellow swallowtails), which we enjoyed from the patio.  We hiked to the stone chapel on the mountain, steep in parts but lovely (and humid!), while Sis and Mama rode Icelandic ponies, with the extra gait called tolting.  Mama had never riden before but did it for Sis.  They had a great time riding through the meadows.  Sis loved the horses and helped out in the stable, fitting right in. They are planning to go back to ride in the snow!!  Bud and Pop saw a snake on our hike, a friendly garter.  After the hike (and some time watching the dog agility contest being hosted on the grounds), we sat on the patio, drinking and juggling with Gommie, Pop, and Bud in the afternoon sun.  The scent of lilacs wafter over us with every breeze.  There was a wedding at the Lodge that evening, complete with about $100K of fireworks, a brilliant display lighting up the whole valley for half an hour.  It was a more elaborate display than our town does for July 4th!   Beautiful view with the explosions lighting up the hillsides.  And because they were being shot from a bit below us (in a field below the lodge), the fireworks seemed very close.

view from our Trapp Lodge suite


love the gradations!

These might actually be Shelburne sheep, but you get the idea.




The Trapp Lodge, with sage


Stone Chapel



Oh, the scent of lilac



Took me a long time to get this photo.


Mt. Mansfield:  The toll road opened the weekend we showed up and we went up 3,600' to the top of Vermont's highest peak.  Sis spotted the ski trails she wanted to come back and try.  Once we got to the top, we took a hike across the ridge to see Lake Champlain and the Adirondacks.  Breathtaking!!  And kinda scary, right on worn rock faces without a really level path.)  Pop, the kids, and Mama even scampered further up.  Amazing.  Sitting on a rock lower down, I loved the view of the spruce "repoussoir trees" framing the Adirondacks in the distance and the Alpine tundra above the tree line.  Pretty amazing.  I was so proud of us for making the hike (especially proud of me for doing it and also not freaking out that the kids went higher), though we were tired and hungry afterwards.  (And waits were long at the Blue Donkey burger place we went to first, so we grabbed some really good pizzas at Piecasso.)


On the road to the top of Mansfield










Breathtaking







Moss Glenn Falls:  Oh, the falls.  It was easy to get to the stream, a beautiful, very cold stream with big and small rocks.  There was probably some kind of mill at the shore--no right angles in nature, especially of piled rocks.  We hung out there for awhile, gathering courage to attack the rock-and-root scramble to see the falls.  Trying and tiring.  And very scary.  More scary than actually hard.  Especially because it reminded me of the rocky, wooded mount where Boromir was killed in The Lord of the Rings movie.  I even dropped my skirt to wear just my athletic shorts to crawl on my hands and knees. But oh so beautiful.   I'm so proud of myself!   And Pop and the kids went even higher!!  We hike well together, each taking care of the other.  Everyone hiking their own hike.  Mama takes pictures.  Pop presses ahead and then falls behind to help. I stop to listen to birds or look at butterflies.  Sis built a dam in the water.  Both kids made a cairn in the rocks.  All we needed was a picnic lunch (though, it was almost too warm to eat.)



For comparison, that's my dad in orange waving.

Glacially cold stream




Remains of a building





Ben and Jerry's:  On our first attempt to visit (right after the waterfall), we missed the last tour and then didn't want to wait in a 50-person line for ice cream.  Our second attempt was moderately more successful, in that we made the tour but still didn't want to wait in a really long line for ice cream.  The tour was great--short and quite literally sweet, with a sample of Americone Dream at the end (pretty tasty and so obviously freshly made and not in a store freezer.)  And I loved the shop, especially the rainbow cow shirt about love!

------At this point, we separated, with the kids spending two nights with Gommie and Pop alone (not too many details, but they ate a lot, watched several shows on Food Network, played ping pong, loved the exhibits at the Shelburne museum while also missing the rain, but were perhaps not as enamored of Fort Ticonderoga), and Mama and I taking a quick night to ourselves at the Inn at Shelburne Farms.------

Shelburne Farms:  I've been aware of Shelburne Farms for awhile but not even entirely sure what it was.  Dairy? Resort? Museum? Restaurant? I knew it was in upper VT and that they'd had a terrible fire a few years back that wiped out one of their barns and their old-growth wood collection.  Well, now I know better.  It is a dairy, an educational institution, an inn, restaurant, and an historic site.  And we got a bit of a taste of it all as we toottled around the Farm Barn learning about cheese and visiting the animals, having delicious sandwiches for lunch (ham/apple panini for me, avocado/sprouts for Mama, with cold carrot ginger soup), learning about the historic home and model farm built by Dr. Webb and his wife Lila Vanderbilt, and eating a "farm supper" (stuffed trout, stuffed tofu, parsnips, wild rice, 3-year aged cheddar, vanilla ice cream on a ganache-covered tuile), and then an amazing breakfast (buttermilk pancakes with maple mascarpone cream and rhubarb compote, a savory steel oat risotto with ham, spinach, and an egg on top) in the restaurant, plus tea and sweets in the afternoon.  Truthfully, I was so enamored with the ceiling of the dining room (or "Marble Room" which was once the ballroom) that I barely noticed dinner (which was just as well because I'm not that fond of a heavy hand with herbs.)

That's the barn!







Oh, the house.  It was like getting to stay at a famous house museum, like spending the night as a guest at the Breakers (Vanderbilts, Newport, RI) or  The Mount (Edith Wharton, Lenox, MA) or something.  Aesthetically, it reminded me of H.H. Richardson's "shingle style" houses but also something of the Arts and Crafts movement of William Morris (especially the niche in the stairs and the library; the tea room and dining room were much more formal neo-classicism or Georgian, if memory serves, with elaborate white moldings and huge formal portraits.)  I was happy sitting in the library with 6,000 books, the scent of which reminded me of Aunt Sis.  Mama and I made a pile--Victorian American foodways, a history of Lake Champlain, New England Gardens, the diary of a Victorian gardener--which we perused on the porch in matching rocking chairs.  Thank heavens for a stiff breeze or we would have been pretty uncomfortable.

Tea Room



Captivating dining room ("Marble Room") ceiling



Room past the tea room







Doesn't it feel like Arts and Crafts?




The library.





Our room, the "White Room" (actually on the third floor, once probably the valet's room with buttons to call the sewing room! and stairs leading to Dr. Webb's room), was in a turret overlooking the lake, a huge space with a seating area and desks.  I reclined on a chaise lounge while Mama sat in one of the overstuffed chairs, feet on a "poof."  We just watched the clouds move, the water flow.  It was all very decadent.  So relaxing.  The best part was the lightning storm that rolled in that evening--rain poured down the house and trampled the garden, flashes lit the lake and silhouetted the trees, but the thunder only rumbled and didn't crack like we expected.  Still, I love a good storm and we watched it until at least midnight.


Our sitting area

And views . . . 




Dr. Webb's trunk and our borrowed books






Gardens:  My first introduction to the Shelburne gardens was actually in the back of the house, in the parking lot, where I got a whiff of what I thought was jasmine.  I found out later from the gardener, who let me have some of the blossoms felled by the storm, that it was mock orange.  Ooooh, still, it reminded me of summer nights in Tunisia and Mama of temple offerings in Thailand.  The garden borders the lake, with a rocky beach and cliffs to one side and an "enchanted forest" to the other.  It was designed in terraces, rooms even (a la Vita Sackville-West at Sissinghurst and Gertrude Jekyll), with a whole space devoted to roses, another to peonies, a section with herbs, another with various flowers that I can't name (lilac and gardenia perhaps, and so much else), several little statues including a cement fruit-and-flower basket like my paternal grandparents had, a portico with seats and a table (and waxed leaf ligustrum aka Ligustrum japonicum "Texanum" which I recall from my childhood in Houston--love that scent!), ornamental balustrades, and a lily pond complete with fish.  It was two owl statues which led our way into the "ramble" so to speak, with several benches throughout the maze-like forest (the "enchanged forest"), including a ring of yew trees framing the bench overlooking the lake.  We were quite hidden as we watched the sun begin to set.  We visited this garden several times--in the heat of Sunday afternoon, in the shade of the setting sun with the thunderstorm approaching, and again the next morning as the gardener tried to revive the peonies and let me have a few of the cuttings.  The dampness of the garden just heightened the power of the scent of the roses and peonies.  Oh, it makes me wish I was a better, more dedicated and persistent gardener (I get lazy with the watering and the weeding, which means many things don't make it.)






Sunset over Lake Champlain and Adirondacks, with approaching storm

All peonies!



View from the enchanted forest















Porch views . . . .





Lake Champlain Maritime Museum and Philadelphia:  Before we headed home on Monday, we decided to take in the Maritime museum (instead of the Shelburne which was bigger and had so much more walking.)  It's definitely a local affair but has many interesting artifacts and experimental archaeology projects, most notably a reconstruction of Benedict Arnold's Philadelphia, one of his slapdash gun boats built quickly of green wood (and so prone to leaks) to keep the British from taking the lake and thus separating New England from the rest of the colonies.  The original was sunk at the Battle of Val Coeur in 1776, but the copy sits in a small harbor on Lake Champlain.  I don't know much colonial maritime history and so was fascinated by all our docent had to say, including how 40 conscripted men slept upright in shifts against the wall of the boat while officers got benches!  The boat had no keel and was 5 times broader than it was deep so it could only sort-of sail, which meant there were oar locks all over.  It carried numerous large and small cannon for very close combat.  All in all, I would not have wanted to be on that boat in a naval battle.  Those poor men; though, they did their jobs and kept the British from taking the lake.


The Philadelphia







Long drive home:  After the museum, we ate a very tasty sandwich lunch at the nearby Red Mill restaurant, where it began to pour rain as we sat.  And the rain didn't let up for hours.  It was an awful drive home and more than once we contemplated spending the night somewhere to wait out the storm (but $371 for a night at the Equinox in Manchester was just too much.)  Losing all network connectivity didn't help because we couldn't 1.) navigate or 2.) keep an eye on the radar.  I actually read the map as we passed Tarbellville and Wallingford, neither of which had good places to pull over.  So we ended up in Weston at, you guessed it, the Vermont Country Store!  Yep, the store bookended our trip and really was a lifesaver.  We picked up snacks for dinner and a few more souvenirs.  And made it home a few hours later than we'd hoped.  Still, we were safe and the cats were happy (enough) to see us.

What a glorious weekend, indeed what a wonderful two weeks with my folks!  So many great experiences, so many lovely memories.  And really, we're not done . . . because we'll be heading to Texas later this summer.

Friday, June 16, 2017

Nostalgia

I put them on the bus for the last day of elementary school.  And I've been looking over my old photos, and everyone else's who posted on FB, and am feeling the bittersweet pang of children growing.

No more bus stops for me (they won't want me at the middle school stop, even if it's our corner.)
No more dress code/uniforms for them.
No more field days, Snowflake Bingo, Pajama Nights, school musical, Math nights, recess, and all of the other great elementary school events I can't think of right now.
No more elementary-school family, after seven years, because our school splits into two middle schools.
No more mom network for me; most of the moms I know are off to the other middle school.

Sure, there are lots of great things coming, but I'm looking back right now and appreciating the community of which we've been a part since 2010.  It's been a wonderful journey for all of us (with some not so great bits) and I'm going to miss the comfort and familiarity, the support and dedication that is elementary school.  It's never quite the same afterwards and they won't ever be at another school this long (well, unless they do a Ph.D. and take a bit, but that's not the same either.)

So, goodbye, elementary school, and thank you.

Wednesday, June 14, 2017

Summer Fun List 2017

With just two half-days of school left, I've been looking over our old Summer Fun lists and I can already tell that this year will be a bit different.  I don't organize activities as much as I did years ago because the kids don't need me to.   I realized more clearly this year. that this is definitely my list, not theirs, and some I've included things I want to do for me and things I hope they do.  Still, here's a list of ideas for me to keep in mind.

  1. Go to Vermont
  2. Sis's speedskating camp
  3. Go to Texas
  4. Family camp in Maine
  5. Sis's computer camp
  6. Bud's theater camp 
  7. Ice skating with friends
  8. Putt-putt with friends
  9. Beach outing
  10. Putt-putt golf
  11. Create Minecraft server
  12. Make ice cream
  13. Go to zoo
  14. Family biking
  15. Celebrate 4th of July
  16. Celebrate Solstice
  17. Celebrate Mama's birthday with Studio Ghibli film festival
  18. Birthday parties for kids
  19. Kids cook weekly dinners
  20. Attend friends' Friday Night Dance Party


  21. See Spiderman Homecoming
  22. See Thor: Ragnorak
  23. Big house purge before carpet removal
  24. Backyard archery
  25. Bird song e-course
  26. Zentangle subscription video
  27. Summer Soul Camp workshop
  28. Clean basement
  29. Gardening
  30. Make rock art
  31. Lego Death Star
  32. Refurbish dollhouse
  33. Kids learn how to do laundry
  34. Volunteering (Sis with horse camp, Bud with cats?)
  35. Lemonade-stand fundraiser
  36. NYC nano-honeymoon with Mama--see Come From Away or Great Comet
  37. Try embroidery on pillowcase
  38. Improve my Splattoon skills
  39. Make Jan-June photobook
  40. Get back to my YogaDance class
  41. Quilling
  42. Read through magazine pile
  43. Teach mandalas class

Tuesday, June 13, 2017

Proud Parents and Grandparents

I am all aglow from the events of the last week.

And not just because of the heat wave which engulfs us and is sending the kids home early today (the temperature in the classrooms is up over 100F, definitely no learning going on.)

No, I'm a very proud mom after a weekend of the school play, a horse show, and the sixth-grade award ceremony.

"It's Showtime!"
And best yet, all the grandparents and their uncle Goo were here to celebrate all of these with us.

The play, oh the play.  The kids--all the kids--were marvelous in Madagascar Jr., a musical retelling of the popular animated movie.  Bud played "Rico," the kung-fu fighting, sushi-loving penguin.  I loved watching him perform, from his slides onto the middle of the stage, his quick kung-fu moves, to his singing "Sea Shanty."  I really liked how he waddled and moved his head around like a real penguin. For me, he just lit up the stage.

Sis was a police officer, appearing mostly in the first few scenes and then the end, looking intimidating in her navy blue (real) police officer shirt and hat.  She does stern well and was believable with that walkie-talkie.  But oh, we had a shock to see her in eyeliner and blush.  She became a teenager right in front of us.  Kinda surprising.  But it all totally worked in the part.  And she didn't have to dance (which she does not like to do on stage.)

I was the snack coordinator again, meaning I oversaw the procurement and distribution of water and snacks to the cast during all three shows.  It's a bit of organizational work, but not much compared to people in charge of costumes, props, choreography, etc.  And we get to go backstage, which other parents not working do not.  I saw the show twice, checking the cafeteria before and after, and during intermission, and then worked the cafeteria snacks on Saturday.  It was pretty hot the last two performances, but we had enough water and watermelon, which is their favorite.  Mama, Gommie, and Pop also helped us out--fetching coolers and ice, helping bring in snacks.

After the show on Friday, we all headed to a local diner with much of the cast, loudly celebrating while wolfing down dinner.  Everyone was exhilarated and exhausted.  Saturday night, it was me, Mama, Gommie and our Beloved Babysitter and her boyfriend.  So special that they came!  She brought the kiddos flowers and then we all went to a diner together afterwards.  We love to see her and were interested to finally meet her chef boyfriend.

After Sunday's show, there was a cast party after the last performance.  The kids signed each other's t-shirts and posters between a chicken dinner and cake.  They also got the cast cards that audience members could leave for them.  We all wrote cards for Sis and Bud, and I also wrote cards to all my Girl Scouts and a few of the other cast members.  I just wanted them to know how much I really enjoyed the show and all their hard work.  It was a nice little party, after an amazing weekend.  And I couldn't be prouder.

Ride 'em, Horse Girl
In the midst of all that, Sis had a horse show on Saturday which we did not want to miss.  Even tired, she loves to ride "her" horse, Murphy.  So, Gommie, Pop, Mama, and I spent a hot day in the field watching those beautiful beasts and their composed riders.  Sis got a first place for jumping (because she made her diagonals correctly) and three third places for Walk-Trot-Canter equitation and pleasure (her dear Murphy was being a bit stubborn.)  I can't really tell what makes for a good ride; I just like watching.  Gommie was especially interested in how the whole horse show worked--the different events, the different commands ("the class is closed," "riders reverse at the wall," posting vs. half-seat, pleasure vs equitation--I understand it all, just barely.)  But we were all a bit relieved to get out of the heat after her events were over.  Still, I love watching her ride.  Almost as much as she loves horses!

Though, the kids did manage to go swimming with Gommie and Pop after eating some SmashBurgers!  And then it was off to the next performance . . . .  

And the Award Goes to  . . . .
It was a very hot night in the school auditorium, where I had been since Thursday (for the final dress rehearsal, I chaperoned with Gommie), but we were all happy to gather in our hot-weather finest for the celebration of the kids leaving elementary school.  I guess you could call it graduation or commencement, but they don't.  Sis wore her dress pants and white gauzy shirt, Bud was in a light blue Oxford--basic dress up clothes for them both (like for chorus or orchestra.)  We took a lot of pictures, in many combinations, getting a few great ones with grandparents and many of their school friends.  We didn't quite know what to expect from the ceremony, didn't really know what awards there were.  It started with a basic presentation of certificates for their involvement in the play, chorus, art, orchestra, etc., all of which were just passed out in an envelope.  We did know about the Presidential Awards, which the kids hoped to earn--the Gold award was for a 3.5 GPA and over 60 on various STAR tests.  I thought they qualified, but we didn't know until they were both called--the second set of twins to earn the Presidential Gold Award that night (the other set, in their class, also has two moms!)   They just beamed with pride and I was sniffly.  (I laughed that we should switch their last names so they could be called earlier in the round up!)  Then the Character Education Awards.  Someone had told Sis they thought she should get one--and she did!  Wow!  And then Bud won a prestigious Citizenship Award named after a local detective, that came with $100 (all the kids oohed and aahed)!  (He got it with another young lady, one of our friends and a former Girl Scout.)  Wow again!  So proud of them--academics and character!!!  Proud of all of our kids, especially their gifted-and-talented classmates and my Girl Scouts (current and former.)  It really was fun to celebrate them.  Which we did with more cake in the cafeteria, more pictures all over, and then a trip to the local ice cream shop with a bunch of their classmates.  I got a hot fudge sundae because I was proud of Mama and me, too.  Ma had even said we were good parents, which was a wonderful first.  My folks say it a lot, but it means so much each time; I was really glad that my dad made the trip, which was a last-minute decision.   And I'm glad they were all able to be with us, surrounding the kiddos with love and support during this exciting time.

And so now, they'll be home early because of the heat.  Gommie and Pop are off to who-knows-where, but we'll see them later.  The kids are essentially done with class--tomorrow is their 6th-grade picnic and then they have two half-days (hope the heat dismissal doesn't change that.)  Then they really are done!  Middle Schoolers!

It's all bittersweet.  I love their teachers and the supportive environment of the school.  They've had good times here and grown and learned so much.  I have, too.  But just as we moved from home to preschool, preschool to half-day kindergarten, half-day to full day, the small elementary school to the upper grades at the larger elementary school, we'll all be okay moving to middle school.  And I think, after a bit, we'll all be good, thanks to the love and support of family and community.

Thursday, June 8, 2017

My NYC Field Trip

Yesterday, I took my own field trip into NYC yesterday for a conference on palliative care and the arts at Fordham University.  I hadn't been into NYC by myself in years; it's been more than twelve since I commuted regularly.  Because of my sensitive back and anxious tummy, I was nervous about going in for the day, but I also really wanted to go not only for the conference but to prove I could do it.  And it all came back to me.

I was on a pretty early train, earlier than I ever left when I worked in the city, and I fell asleep in my favorite window seat almost immediately and woke up at 125th Street.  Getting from GCT to Times Square on the shuttle and then to 59th on the 1 train (I want to say 1/9, but there isn't a 9 train there anymore.)  I could almost do it with my eyes closed.  Because it isn't hot yet, it thankfully didn't have that subway smell; nor did I see any rats on the track!  Otherwise, it felt like going home.

The conference itself was okay.  I loved the topic of "palliative arts" but they could have done so much more with it.  The conference was mostly for people in the field--social workers, palliative and hospice specialists, chaplains, and volunteers like me--but the talks were just incredibly introductory, as if for the general public.  Like "poetry is good for sick people" or "movement is good for sick people" with a lot of "I did this and it was wonderfully effective" or "I wrote this article to prove how effective my specialty is."  The music therapist really underlined this--she repeatedly contrasted music (like "the music your grandmother likes") with music therapy ("I match specific rhythms to physical or emotional aspects of the client"), emphasizing that only music therapists could do this.  So why tell us?  None of us were music therapists.  And I'd expand on that by saying that patients are much more likely to come across social workers, chaplains, and volunteers than the rare music therapist, so why not give us some tools that we CAN use?  Give us a music activity or a writing activity.  I'm happy with learning about and celebrating their successes, but I also wanted to know how to adapt their best practices to my work.  And in that respect, I was disappointed.

Still, I did glean a few things (just not as much as I wanted):
  • One of the keynote speakers was very influenced by Buddhism philosophy, specifically the Japanese therapist Itami's Meaningful Life Therapy (see local Todo Institute), plus Morita (which I don't quite have a handle on) and also Naikan, which delves into gratitude.  She repeatedly used words like constructive or creative living, meaningful living, and the like.  She believed that palliative care should be introduced within the first day or two of diagnosis.  I can see where that would be really helpful.  Just like starting hospice earlier than the last few weeks is really helpful.  It allows patients to utilize resources, consider their own needs, and implement some new habits or practices--like Morita and Naikan--to help get them through.  
  • Music therapy--"it doesn't always have to be harps."  She's had success with drums for a woman from the Virgin Islands too.  But don't try this, YOU are not a music therapist (yes, I was a bit annoyed.)
  • Dance or movement therapy--she had us do a breath meditation (with a bit of a body scan) and then mirror, or more specifically, respond to the movements of our partner by watching them for awhile and then joining in.  The pause is very important; it's about respect and letting go of control.  I liked that movement therapy is non-judgemental and focuses on what the body can still do.
  • I really liked the woman who talked about comic books and palliative care, or "graphic medicine."  There is apparently a whole genre of graphic novels dealing with medical issues--books by the patients themselves, not the practioners.  She noted that comics could touch deep emotions and clarify feelings about difficult topics.  I just don't know if I've had hospice patients with the fine motor skills to do any drawing; I tried Zentangle once and the patient couldn't really hold a crayon.
  • The poet shared many of the poems written by his patients.  Of course, poetry, like graphic novels, clarifies feelings and brings on self-awareness and transformation.  Both reading and writing poetry can be valuable.
  • Lastly, a filmmaker introduced a new documentary on dying in America, entitled Defining Hope.  I like the bits we saw and welcome the chance to see the whole thing--it's screening on Nov. 1, in Palliative Care and Hospice month, on the Day of the Dead/All Souls Day!
I loved being in the city.  Mercy, I walked more in a day than I ever do here at home.  And it's much more interesting walking, not just looking at yards and houses.  I grabbed a snack at Hale and Hearty soup, one of my old favorites--a tasty pennette vodka soup, plus a chocolate croissant.  No Junior's there anymore though.  But I did enjoy perusing the newsstand.  I miss it all.  But I also realized that now I can take the kids in on my own this summer.  They're independent and I am capable.  Let's see when we go and what we do.

BIG Affirmations

Affirmations Continued

Here's another update to my Affirmations list  (my original list of Affirmations is from March, AprilOctober 2015, then March and June 2016.) 

As you know, every now and then I need a confidence boost.  You have probably figured out that I often underestimate my abilities, am hard on myself, and get anxious about it all.  So here is my list of times I overcame all that, proof that I can do it again!  New bullet items are in bold.

I have not had severely debilitating back pain since 2010.  Three years ago, Memorial Day 2014 when I had back pain, I still functioned and did things.  My surgery was almost two years ago, and, despite a weight gain caused by steroids etc., I am so much better.  

Recently, I have successfully navigated:

  • going into NYC for 13 hours by myself!!!!  Swaying trains, lots of walking, awful conference chairs--no back pain or much anxiety!!!!!!  SO PROUD!!!!!  I love NYC!
  • walking the Bronx Zoo for three hours with no back brace!
  • driving 30+ minutes both ways to new hospice place!
  • INTERVIEWING for new volunteer hospice position (twice--volunteer coordinator AND senior chaplain)--and getting the position!!!
  • middle school orientations and all the end-of-year activities;
  • going to the doctor on my own without much anxiety;
  • doing a big, busy weekend all by myself (Mama was on retreat), with lots of driving, a horse show, and speedskating;
  • managing conflict without avoiding it;
  • singing alone and acapella in front of 30 students and a voice coach;
  • Kripalu Yoga Dance; 
  • walking the Kripalu labyrinth without a brace; 
  • volunteering at an all-day speedskating event;
  • teaching a Zentangle class to 22 students;
  • attending the opera despite a mild stomach bug;
  • conflict and confrontation at a meeting;
  • hiked Sleeping Giant for 2+ hours, starting off without my brace;
  • hikes at the Appalachian Trail, Thundering Brook, Quechee Gorge, Webb Mountain, East Rock Park, Roosevelt Forest, and others;
  • riding in a wagon at a parade, waving to crowds, for more than an hour;
  • exploring the top of a mountain, Mt. Equinox;
  • extended walking on ice (in new great boots!);
  • Hawk Watch 2016 at Audubon Greenwich and elsewhere;
  • Snowy Owling walks;
  • Just Dance with Bud;
  • morning walks at the zoo without brace;
  • baking challah with hospice patient over two visits;
  • three-hour schooner ride in LI Sound;
  • walked the High Line;
  • our big Florida trip--Universal Studios Harry Potter World!!!!;
  • a long 5-day workshop to become a Certified Zentangle Teacher;
  • a retreat at Kripalu;
  • my piano recital of "Greensleeves";
  • explorations of Providence (before CZT), Philadelphia (before a friend's installation), Northampton/Western Mass (with Historic Deerfield, Magical Wings, and Webs Yarn Store!!);
  • a nighttime Owl Prowl and a hike up a mountain to see wolves; 
  • Gong's citizenship ceremony;
  • a Taize service;
  • volunteering and attending the school play for three days;
  • festival at historic house with games and activities;
  • giving several historic house tours;
  • filmed historic house video;
  • teaching my very first Zentangle class to adults and then my first class to students;
  • purchasing and riding a bicycle;
  • visiting Connecticut Hospice;
  • HAMILTON!
  • extra driving to and from play, to doctors' offices, etc;
  • gone to the movies;
  • pushed a cart at the store without my brace;
  • evening performances at Lincoln Center and Broadway;
  • the all-day rehearsal time and then performance of Bud's kung fu at Lincoln Center;
  • walking 10 blocks, eating in a restaurant, and walking back 10 blocks;
  • back-to-back museum exhibitions;
  • test driving and buying a new car;
  • conducting various GS meetings (including Bronze Award!) and standing at the GS cookie booth;
  • being in charge--rides, meals, chores, etc.--as the only adult for the whole weekend;
  • parented alone for a whole weekend, with all the driving and meals etc;
  • complete a huge crocheted blanket;
  • passing my CPR test, with 3+ minutes of demonstration of compressions, etc.;
  • driving Bud to a performance, staying to watch, and driving home;
  • walking the marsh and the beach to look for the Snowy Owl;
  • lightsaber sparring with Bud; 
  • cleaning the porch with Mama;
  • pick up dear Mr. P and carry him when he was ill;
  • walked on rocky/shelly beaches looking sea glass (home and Block Island);
  • attending a weekend knitting retreat (with lots of sitting!);
  • walking labyrinths (at retreat and Block Island);
  • walking on wooded paths, where I saw an owl (retreat);
  • attended several parties;
  • sat through SW7 three times (once followed by dinner!);
  • Chinese New Year, with several sessions of kneeling to pray;
  • regular doctors' appointments;
  • one word:  colonoscopy;
  • and more that I can't even remember.

Tuesday, June 6, 2017

Here They Come

My parents are somewhere in West Virginia, heading our way.  Apparently, they're enjoying the country roads . . . which makes me want to start singing John Denver.

They are coming to Connecticut for the weekend, to see the play, a horse show, and awards night.  Then they're tootling around the northeast so that we can be together for awhile after school lets out.

It's going to be a crazy few weeks.

Fun, but crazy.