Thanksgiving is next week and, while I know I have so much to be grateful for, I'm just not feeling it yet. I'm irksome. I'm rather disillusioned and disgusted with the whole shebang right now. I can barely get through my FB feed. Or the newspaper. (Though, as a side note, I'm loving all the mischievous Biden memes.) All the talk of coming together and love on FB is annoying me. "Love always wins"--yeah, except, you know, the election. Sometime shit does actually happen and I think we do ourselves a disservice to pretend otherwise. Random acts of kindness do not erase the real effects of racism, sexism, intolerance, violence, income inequality, environmental collapse, and the like. For now, I feel like they are pablum to make us feel better that we're not doing more. And frankly, they make liberal white women (because that's where it seems to be coming from) look silly. Now, I'm not saying go be an asshole like the President-Elect. And buying a stranger's cup of coffee is good. And I do like the safety pin movement because, as a lesbian with biracial children, I appreciate knowing who would support me in the event of conflict. But I'm looking for a little more practicality and realism than "love." Especially because that is NOT the game the other team is playing.
I've given this some thought ever since I read an article about why Martin Luther King, Jr and later Barack Obama both looked at Unitarian Universalism and rejected it--its embrace of inherent worth and the search for truth and justice was too positive and didn't address the real losses and real suffering of many communities, particularly African American, both urban and Southern. The UU focus on the goodness of humans can leave followers at a loss when faced with people who behave dishonestly, selfishly, immorally, violently, illegally, etc. There have been discussions of why UU kids have trouble when they realize not everyone believes in inherent worth, the interdependent web, and acknowledging the importance of various sources of knowledge, etc. I think it might be the reason so many UUs now embrace Buddhism--myself included--because it acknowledges suffering and how to address it skillfully. I think that's one of the reasons I'm frustrated with all the "stronger together" talk now. I'm sure I'll find a middle ground.
Still, I haven't decided what I want to do about it all.
Well, I have--I'm planning my Thanksgiving menu.